Hello, my sweet baby girl.
It’s been awhile.
It’s been crazy. Things have gotten away from me, and I’m sorry.
That doesn’t mean that I haven’t thought of you. I have not forgotten you. I still speak your name. I still sing your song. I still let the tears fall at times.
It has been 629 days since I last saw your face. 1 year, 8 months, 20 days. And I have felt your absence each one of those days.
So much has changed. You have a little brother. He looks just like you…I can’t get over it. I sit on the couch often at night and blink back tears as I look between your photo and his face. He’s 8 months old and brings so much joy into our lives. You would adore him. He’s teaching me how to be a mother…as best as he can. This wasn’t meant to be his job but he’s doing his best to make you proud. I know he was always meant to be ours too…but he’s with us a little sooner now than if you had stayed.
Little H is such an even tempered boy. He is like Daddy that way. They anchor me when I suddenly launch into an emotionally charged tizzy. He is so good. But I believe that you would have been much more like me. I feel that you would have been my wild girl, brimming over with life and and adventure and an unbreakable spirit. I know you would have challenged boundaries…and my patience at times. You would have reminded me of what it is to live with all that you are.
I know exactly how your brother would have watched you, ever observing, always in awe of his big sister. You would dress him up, and you would at times allow him into your tea parties. He would giggle and drool and love every moment of your attention. You would teach him how to give nice pets to your puppy and not pull her tail…and to stay away from the fluffy dog since she is a little cranky being so old. He would giggle as you twirled and laughed showing him a new dress, or new shoes, or a new dance you made up. You would talk, and talk, and talk, and talk…and he would listen with his inquisitive smile.
When he cries, sometimes I imagine I feel you rush past me to check on him before I can reach his crib. I imagine you singing him songs when you thought he was frightened, and how he would quiet to listen as you held him close. I know the look he would give you, cheeks wet, eyes wide, crooked half smile as he found rest in your voice. Blue eyes gazing into blue eyes.
I miss you every single day. My heart aches for your pigtails, sloppy kisses, and warm hugs. I wish there had been time with you…I desperately wish. But soon, one day, we will again be together, hearts beating as one. One day I will get to say hello and never again goodbye.
Tell all that we love and miss them as well. Be sure to show them your favorite parts of heaven, but save a special part for me.
With all the love that I posses –
Mommy